Not everyone is going to have good instincts for parenting, but I do think anyone who is following one methodology is probably going to have a bad time. Like I probably lean towards gentle parenting maybe? But yes, if my kid hits me with a water cannon I'll throw them into the water? That seems normal?
Likewise there are all these horror stories of parents letting their kids run around and break shit in other people's houses, and, yes the general shape to my parenting is to be empathetic and sensitive, and put there individuality first, but also think the idea of letting my kid just do whatever they want all the time is stupid? and actually lacks empathy?
But on the flip side, I think it's equally crazy that there's this certain ideological position that's like "If you don't hit your kid you're doing it wrong" and first of all I'm not going to hit my kid, but second of all, it seems weird to me to assume your kid will fail and be bad? Be prepared for it sure, but lead with that?
I think hitting your kid is okay only if they put themselves or others in danger. Kid putting a fork into the breaker box? Smack the stupid out of em. You need to associate mortal danger with not wanting pain.
Like that time I ran out in front of a car. Well deserved whoopin.
That time I said a curse word was not a deserved whoopin.
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Not everyone is going to have good instincts for parenting, but I do think anyone who is following one methodology is probably going to have a bad time. Like I probably lean towards gentle parenting maybe? But yes, if my kid hits me with a water cannon I'll throw them into the water? That seems normal?
Likewise there are all these horror stories of parents letting their kids run around and break shit in other people's houses, and, yes the general shape to my parenting is to be empathetic and sensitive, and put there individuality first, but also think the idea of letting my kid just do whatever they want all the time is stupid? and actually lacks empathy?
But on the flip side, I think it's equally crazy that there's this certain ideological position that's like "If you don't hit your kid you're doing it wrong" and first of all I'm not going to hit my kid, but second of all, it seems weird to me to assume your kid will fail and be bad? Be prepared for it sure, but lead with that?
I think hitting your kid is okay only if they put themselves or others in danger. Kid putting a fork into the breaker box? Smack the stupid out of em. You need to associate mortal danger with not wanting pain.
Like that time I ran out in front of a car. Well deserved whoopin.
That time I said a curse word was not a deserved whoopin.