It's a little Anthony Robbins-ish, but I like to think of something similar:
Anything you put your attention on, grows. So keep your attention on what you're hoping for, not on what you wish would go away. Don't give negative things oxygen.
(Of course this is all well and fine for someone of generally good character doing productive work; but can also be the formula for monsters to use that are "hoping for" things that most would find repugnant).
Related, which I always loved: Winston Churchill "You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks."
Great advice for negative things. Pay them no attention, after you've processed them (don't ignore them though!).
For positive things, for future hope and dreams, one has to be careful. We know that visualizing a positive outcome can be counter-productive...
Those who daydream about the perfect fitness routine don't go to the gym.
Those who daydream about building anything are less likely to take the step necessary to actually build it.
It's as though strong visualization of a positive outcome becomes a satiating reward in itself. Without any changes to reality, we become attached to the mere idea of possible future. Just as those dwelling on the past are dissociating from reality, those hoping for the future are willfully disengaging engaging with primary reality.
All that is to say, it IS all about attention. So pay attention to the present.
> We know that visualizing a positive outcome can be counter-productive... [...] Those who daydream ...
There should be made a distinction between daydream and visualization. Visualization in sports psychology is a very common technique that is widely used by athletes (amateur to top tier). I had also read about visualization/imagery having positive effects on motor recovery and performance.
Basically the idea is that your brain has a hard time telling the difference between the fantasy and reality and so you experience the reward which then sucks out the energy and drive needed to actually do the hard work.
> Basically the idea is that your brain has a hard time telling the difference between the fantasy and reality
When it's "fantasy" the experience of reward "sucks out the energy and drive".
I'm referring to there being a difference between fantasy/daydream and mental visualization as the deliberate construction of detailed mental imagery of a desired performance or outcome [0] When you do it while lost in fantasy it's not deliberate, but when it's an intentional process it becomes beneficial.
The brain having a hard time telling the difference between real and imagined is neutral, the how and intention behind that imagined activation tells if the outcome is positive or depleting
Reminds me of a lesson from my motorcycle instructor: “When you see an obstacle in the road that you have to dodge, keep your eyes on the place you want to end up, not on the obstacle as you steer away from it, lest your body unconsciously steers you right back into it.”
It’s not a perfect metaphor, but I think of it often to remind myself not to focus on the outcome I desperately want to avoid.
You're right, and there's a nuance. You absolutely have to deal with tactical threats, but be careful not to go from threat to threat, because there'll always be
I've seen businesses, especially software, do this where 99% of the company's effort was in "doing the right thing" by supporting their last product so much they were never able to put any effort into a better product. Getting out of this is where the right CEO earns their pay.
In some sense, my interpretation is to basically focus on what matters personally and in that, try to focus on the positive and to not worry about the societal issues which are out of your hand.
Even logically, most likely these societal issues are coming for everybody and what you can do is to be best prepared for them which inevitably means to focus on yourself (which is a good advice as ever at any point of time).
So why worry about societal issues and instead not just focus on what matters personally and something which you can take an action on and improve upon (Similar to Stoic philosophy maybe)
(I struggle to live by these words, Hopefully I improve, I am trying to watch negative news less nowadays and would like to focus more on hope and personal growth)
There are things one can call negative that are really realism trying to save you from very bad decisions. See the negativity of telling the boss at Theranos that the tests don't work. I've seen many a startup fail in large part because they spent their runway unwisely, as cheap tests that showed that the existing direction had structural problems were just seen as negativity speaking.
There is such thing as negativity that will ruin your mental health, but the other side is just embracing delusion. We can see examples of successful people that keep embracing the delusion and succeed. But there are many that end up in unrecoverable positions after they burn themselves to the ground in said delusion. Around me, there's far more of the latter than the former.
> See the negativity of telling the boss at Theranos that the tests don't work.
That's not a typical definition of negative things. I'm not disagreeing with your ultimate point but it already feels like a mental stretch to include that in the set of negative things.
It could be that your boss is a negative entity, but the act of disclosure isn't in my world view.
Cognitively I know it's better to just focus on the future and what I'm doing but I really struggle to walk by stuff without engaging. It's a flaw I'm aware of and am trying to work on, but it feels impossible to get where I want to be
It does not help that I am nearing 40 and the past "things I am hoping for" have never really worked out how I wanted. I think it becomes harder and harder to hope when your hopes have been squashed frequently in your life
It's a real privilege to have a life where things actually work out close to how you want them. Hard work alone does not get you there
I think this is part of the problem. You think it’s a temperament, but it’s actually a skill, and skills can be developed.
Like all skills, developing it will be often difficult, frustrating, and uncomfortable, so when it’s like that you have to recognise that as part of the process. You’ll think you’re going against your nature when, in reality, you’re simply experiencing the tribulations of learning a new skill.
Source: 50 year old man who used to throw many stones at dogs on a much more regular basis.
Sure, but like all skills different people will have different aptitude and ability to actually learn and adapt it
That doesn't mean I don't try, but I'm just aware that certain things get under my skin and set me from 0 to 100 faster than I can take a deep breath and keep my cool
Even if this was a mantra for royalty, I am positive that amongst peers and private lessers they will lose their cool and demeanor.
Presenting a demeanor to a subset of humanity is much easier than the whole; on account of the loneliness acting 100% of the time presents. Code switching is pretty inate to humans, it would seem.
I think this "temperament" (or whatever you want to call it) _is_ actually a privilege, to be honest. If you have a family and you depend on things to go a certain way to keep your family from being out on the street, you _must_ consider the bads or possible bads of the world. You must allow yourself to be distracted by distractions so you can keep an eye on everything that affects you. To not do so is irresponsible and you put your family and your livelihood at risk.
If I'm sitting pretty on more income than I need with very few obligations, sure, I can just "focus on the path" and "ignore the distractions". But how many people have that luxury?
- Cognitively I know it's better to just focus on the future
I think you should challenge that assumption first. In my opinion, there is a lot of merit to the "Live in the now" philosophy, instead of always ruminating (or contemplating) about the past and the future. Even with goals, I have been often advised to focus more on the tasks / steps to achieve them, rather than the end results.
> but can also be the formula for monsters to use that are "hoping for" things that most would find repugnant
As an American, we don't like kings and queens because they are always monsters. Just as the very recent attempt to make a king has illustrated. And frankly, the wiki article even downplays Diana.
The problem is they are explicitly saying to do things in the shadows.
| Above all things our royalty is to be reverenced, and if you begin to poke about it you cannot reverence it... Its mystery is its life. We must not let in daylight upon magic
Without that daylight you can't differentiate monsters from men. They claim it's because you can't differentiate saints from men, but I'd make the claim that any man who wishes to be seen as a saint is more monster than saint.
And we've seen what these people do in the shadows. The disgraced Andrew was far from the only Royal in the Epstein files. We saw what they did to Diana, who tried to shed some light. We've seen it over and over.
I'll take the light, because I'd rather live in a world where we make things better than live in a world with the appearance of magic. The only magic is what we create
The never complain part has a status dimension. Complaints from people seen as privileged land badly. Tech in most world is learning this recently. Engineers fears of AI are legitimate, but for years the industry automated other people work, sold headcount reduction as a feature, and told laid off workers to learn to code. I remember how some european aviation insurance company employees were bragging how many lawyers their company laid off thanks to their automation. Now that it's our turn, people outside the bubble aren't in a mood to sympathize. The automation would have happened anyway and the smugness is what we are paying for.
As Bagehot is quoted saying in the article: "Above all things our royalty is to be reverenced, and if you begin to poke about it you cannot reverence it... Its mystery is its life. We must not let in daylight upon magic".
This makes it evident how this strategy exists to maintain the "magic" and fool the masses. It has no place in a progressive society where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
This isn’t coherent. Republicans seem extremely interested in controlling every facet of Americans’ lives. They appear frankly obsessed with controlling who you might love, how you might identify, what books you are allowed to read, whether women have autonomy over their own bodies, etc. The list goes on.
What legislation are you living under that you can't "love who you want to love?" I live in a conservative county and can't hardly drive a mile without seeing a rainbow flag. I don't think any of them are in fear that the police are going to come knocking on their door talking to them about who they should love. Form a coherent point before trying to call out incoherence.
I'll hand it to you, "Trump is awful because he was a Democrat, and Democrats are de facto awful" is one I haven't seen before. That said, within my own anecdotal experience, "God Bless Trump" signs are pretty common in the Bible Belt, and that certainly is a sentiment born of authoritarian times.
>It has no place in a progressive society where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
I think this really misses the nuance of all of this. To put it bluntly: there's too many dumb people who need to believe in this kind of "magic" to be able to reasonably ignore it on a political strategy level. Just trying to treat everyone as intellectually-capable of being presented facts and making a logical choice clearly doesn't work, and the opposition is perfectly willing to exploit this dynamic.
I feel like bygone royals still left more memorable and positive changes to society (even in the background of all the negatives) that current caste of billionaires ever will.
Future generations will look back and admire today's billionaires for creating things like cellphones, cars and the internet. No matter how true it is.
> where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
I agree, but believe we’re now in a regressive society, moving as fast as we can to repeat history, investing vast resources into effortless propaganda machines.
That's what I personally call the Huberman strategy: no official statement, barely any acknowledgments of allegations, just carrying on with whatever thing you're doing, the mob will soon enough find its next target. It worked exceptionally well for him, I guess it helps to be a neuroscientist.
Maybe it worked better than trying to address it, but Huberman’s popularity definitely fell off after it was revealed that he was not a great person.
During the peak of his popularity you would find Huberman protocols or Huberman factoids repeated everywhere on the internet, including HN. There was a sharp drop off after the revelations. I can’t recall the last time I saw someone someone repeat a Huberman podcast factoid here, which is remarkable after he was so popular.
In the Huberman case it was compounded by how much he was embracing and repeating non-scientific ideas that sounded good on social media, like reducing everything to being about dopamine or making crazy claims about how you could do things to “raise your dopamine” that were not actually supported by research. When his personal dramas were exposed it became an opening to discuss how bad his podcast had become and I think many listeners woke up to that fact when shaken by the realization that not everything about Huberman was as it seemed.
He has been able to continue podcasting to an audience of die-hard fans, though. These people never totally disappear because a core audience worships them and will ignore everything inconvenient to their worship.
Peter Attia went through a similar downfall after several increasingly bad scandals were revealed, culminating in him getting caught associating deeply with Epstein. He tried to make a public statement about distancing himself from Epstein after discovering Epstein’s crimes, but there are public emails between Attia and Epstein where Attia asks Epstein about how he’s doing after Epstein became national news. That backfired everywhere except the core audience of Attia worshippers who now just get angry whenever anyone brings up the Attia-Epstein connection. It’s wild that Attia was one of the few Epstein associates who continued contacting Epstein so much (which went into court records and became public) after he became publicly known as a trafficker. And yet there are hardcore Attia fans to this day.
>Huberman’s popularity definitely fell off after it was revealed that he was not a great person.
I’m not aware of such revelations, maybe I haven’t kept up on all, I recall a piece where women he was dating would get together and talk about dating him while continuing to choose to date him. But I don’t remember any story that revealed something negative about him.
Interesting that you remember the story existing but got the details incorrect and forgot the real problems in the article.
The bigger revelations in the story were that the “Huberman Lab” existed largely in name only and he wasn't living or working near the University. His career had pivoted to influencer celebrity long ago but he’s been capitalizing on the neuroscientist title and claiming lab associations anyway. They also interviewed associates who revealed his history of leading people on, manipulating them, and being dishonest wherever it might help his career. Then they found that he was cheating on multiple women at the same time, including someone he led to believe he wanted a long term relationship and children with. He was injecting one partner with fertility drugs while cheating.
What’s fascinating is how his fanbase stripped the story of all of the important details (chronic pattern of misleading everyone in his life where it can help his popularity, which extends into his podcast reporting where he misleads listeners) and instead tried to transform it into personal dating drama that was overblown.
Then the second pass of rationalizing it away was to take the relationship drama and transform that into something that could be blamed on the women involved while letting Huberman off the hook. After that final transformation they were free to ignore anything negative about him because the story had been rewritten, in the retelling, to be completely the fault of women. There were even efforts to make it look like a good thing that he was dating multiple women.
In case it wasn’t clear: In the reporting the women did not “continue to choose to date him” as you heard. The reported group discussion was about former partners had been lied to who were discovering each other because the number of them had grown so high that he couldn’t escape it.
That's the one strategy suggested to people when the cancel mob comes for you. If you give them any attention at all they turn their efforts up to 11. If you just ignore them completely they find a new target. (That is of course if they don't go one level above you and have you cancelled that way.)
Probably. I have been trying to be at least a bit more discriminating about what I complain about now. Even if the quantity of complaints is roughly the same, I at least try and direct it more towards things that deserve the complaints more.
I do think there's value in saying things that are bothering you early on, so I'm not going to say that complaining is inherently "bad", but I will acknowledge that frequent complaining (especially to the wrong people) can lead to a lot of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your life.
I don't think over-explaining everything has negatively affected my life though.
I guess that's my ethnic group, but I don't really consider myself "German", given that I've only ever lived in the United States. I just consider myself "American".
I suppose think about it like you’re the captain of a ship. Imagine a captain always complaining about their peers, the ship, their outfit etc. And when giving orders they sound out their whole thinking process about why they are doing x or y. Versus never complaining or explaining in public. Certainly the former would be a less inspiring and weaker leader.
And yet, I feel so validated as a commoner who has (mostly in US politics) felt as though all rational rules of conversation, question and answer, and accountability are suspended.
Naive me joined other commoners to express aghast surprise at how stupid and clueless our leaders were (are!), completely clueless to the idea that perhaps we were (are!) being managed and that our rage burns off energy in a mostly harmless manner.
Apparently, the British royal family came to the realization a couple of decades ago that it was not an adequate way of avoiding drama anymore.
> With a less deferential and increasingly aggressive media landscape, the strategy of "Never complain, never explain" was abandoned by Prince Charles (the future King Charles III) and his wife Diana, Princess of Wales, in the 1990s.
Most people or organisations can just wait until the public get bored of that issue and forget about them, but for the Royals that doesn't work because they are _always_ in the public eye. There's enough demand for Royal news that if nothing else is happening, the press will quite happily rake over old sores. The only way out is to feed the press with constant new material.
It's annoying to the outside observer, but in-general providing specific details risks opening yourself up to more criticism. It's a cynical stance, but understandable.
Only org's truly confident in their handling of an incident can afford to be open.
Obviously key stakeholders get the full details, but Joe Public doesn't get to know.
Secrets shrouded in darkness, it’s certainly convenient when you’re part of a royal family. But major leaks ought to be made public—or, at the very least, the steps taken to address them should be disclosed. It is important to understand the scale of a leak and the specific individuals involved.
This maxim doesn't work for government, because they have to justify what they do because they are the ones trying to steer a country though very slack and unconnected reins.
The odd bit about the royals is that they are meant to be largely apolitical. They are supposed to be focused on charitable works, opening infrastructure and generally promoting togetherness.
This kinda worked because it meant that we don't have to pretend to like politicians. Great Britain (yes, not UK because its complex) gets to detach the pomp and circumstance from a political movement, allowing honours, events and occasions to largely be free of politics (despite honours being entirely political) This is why flag shaggers are so weird, its fine to like your country, but getting dressed up in a flag for anything other than sports or getting shitfaced is not the done thing. If you're gonna have a fight, at least do it over something tangible, like which ever football club your dad grew up near.
The bit that worked about the royals is that they were a mystery. We don't know who they really are (you rarely want to know everything about a person, because people are generally messy and ugly close up)
Frankly I don't want to know that harry and william fell out. I have no opinions on kate and megan. I am sure they are nice people, and moreover I couldnt give a fuck about what race one of them is, I'm not american, so why do I fucking care?
I just want posh grandad to say nice words to me at state occasions.
I also want that nonce andrew in jail.
ANYWAY
don't complain don't explain only works if you are only ever trying to bring people together. as soon as you trying to divide and conquer you have to explain.
It's a little Anthony Robbins-ish, but I like to think of something similar:
Anything you put your attention on, grows. So keep your attention on what you're hoping for, not on what you wish would go away. Don't give negative things oxygen.
(Of course this is all well and fine for someone of generally good character doing productive work; but can also be the formula for monsters to use that are "hoping for" things that most would find repugnant).
Related, which I always loved: Winston Churchill "You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks."
Great advice for negative things. Pay them no attention, after you've processed them (don't ignore them though!).
For positive things, for future hope and dreams, one has to be careful. We know that visualizing a positive outcome can be counter-productive...
Those who daydream about the perfect fitness routine don't go to the gym.
Those who daydream about building anything are less likely to take the step necessary to actually build it.
It's as though strong visualization of a positive outcome becomes a satiating reward in itself. Without any changes to reality, we become attached to the mere idea of possible future. Just as those dwelling on the past are dissociating from reality, those hoping for the future are willfully disengaging engaging with primary reality.
All that is to say, it IS all about attention. So pay attention to the present.
> We know that visualizing a positive outcome can be counter-productive... [...] Those who daydream ...
There should be made a distinction between daydream and visualization. Visualization in sports psychology is a very common technique that is widely used by athletes (amateur to top tier). I had also read about visualization/imagery having positive effects on motor recovery and performance.
From https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-la...
Basically the idea is that your brain has a hard time telling the difference between the fantasy and reality and so you experience the reward which then sucks out the energy and drive needed to actually do the hard work.
> Basically the idea is that your brain has a hard time telling the difference between the fantasy and reality
When it's "fantasy" the experience of reward "sucks out the energy and drive".
I'm referring to there being a difference between fantasy/daydream and mental visualization as the deliberate construction of detailed mental imagery of a desired performance or outcome [0] When you do it while lost in fantasy it's not deliberate, but when it's an intentional process it becomes beneficial.
The brain having a hard time telling the difference between real and imagined is neutral, the how and intention behind that imagined activation tells if the outcome is positive or depleting
[0] https://www.simplypsychology.com/articles/visualization-tech...
You do have to stay in the present. Magical thinking gets you nowhere.
This was the insight I was given many years ago:
There are a finite number of things in this world that you want, or want to have happen.
There are an infinite number of things in this world that you do not want, or do not want to have happen.
Focus your energy on the positive things you want, and you will automatically avoid the negative things that you do not want.
Sometimes it takes some work to take an obvious thing you don’t want, and to turn that into a positive thing you do want.
> Related, which I always loved: Winston Churchill "You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks."
This seems to be a rewording of https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/the_dogs_bark,_but_the_carava...
Reminds me of a lesson from my motorcycle instructor: “When you see an obstacle in the road that you have to dodge, keep your eyes on the place you want to end up, not on the obstacle as you steer away from it, lest your body unconsciously steers you right back into it.”
It’s not a perfect metaphor, but I think of it often to remind myself not to focus on the outcome I desperately want to avoid.
Doesn't work well if not giving attention to problem doesn't stop that problem from being worse, but just allows it to grow
Unless you literally mean "don't give oxygen", then yes, people generally die off that so the problem would be solved.
You're right, and there's a nuance. You absolutely have to deal with tactical threats, but be careful not to go from threat to threat, because there'll always be
I've seen businesses, especially software, do this where 99% of the company's effort was in "doing the right thing" by supporting their last product so much they were never able to put any effort into a better product. Getting out of this is where the right CEO earns their pay.
In some sense, my interpretation is to basically focus on what matters personally and in that, try to focus on the positive and to not worry about the societal issues which are out of your hand.
Even logically, most likely these societal issues are coming for everybody and what you can do is to be best prepared for them which inevitably means to focus on yourself (which is a good advice as ever at any point of time).
So why worry about societal issues and instead not just focus on what matters personally and something which you can take an action on and improve upon (Similar to Stoic philosophy maybe)
(I struggle to live by these words, Hopefully I improve, I am trying to watch negative news less nowadays and would like to focus more on hope and personal growth)
> Don't give negative things oxygen.
words to live by, if you can.
There are things one can call negative that are really realism trying to save you from very bad decisions. See the negativity of telling the boss at Theranos that the tests don't work. I've seen many a startup fail in large part because they spent their runway unwisely, as cheap tests that showed that the existing direction had structural problems were just seen as negativity speaking.
There is such thing as negativity that will ruin your mental health, but the other side is just embracing delusion. We can see examples of successful people that keep embracing the delusion and succeed. But there are many that end up in unrecoverable positions after they burn themselves to the ground in said delusion. Around me, there's far more of the latter than the former.
“The genius of evolution lies in the dynamic tension between optimism and pessimism continually correcting each other.”
- Martin E.P. Seligman, Learned Optimism
> See the negativity of telling the boss at Theranos that the tests don't work.
That's not a typical definition of negative things. I'm not disagreeing with your ultimate point but it already feels like a mental stretch to include that in the set of negative things.
It could be that your boss is a negative entity, but the act of disclosure isn't in my world view.
I wish I had this sort of temperament
Cognitively I know it's better to just focus on the future and what I'm doing but I really struggle to walk by stuff without engaging. It's a flaw I'm aware of and am trying to work on, but it feels impossible to get where I want to be
It does not help that I am nearing 40 and the past "things I am hoping for" have never really worked out how I wanted. I think it becomes harder and harder to hope when your hopes have been squashed frequently in your life
It's a real privilege to have a life where things actually work out close to how you want them. Hard work alone does not get you there
> I wish I had this sort of temperament
I think this is part of the problem. You think it’s a temperament, but it’s actually a skill, and skills can be developed.
Like all skills, developing it will be often difficult, frustrating, and uncomfortable, so when it’s like that you have to recognise that as part of the process. You’ll think you’re going against your nature when, in reality, you’re simply experiencing the tribulations of learning a new skill.
Source: 50 year old man who used to throw many stones at dogs on a much more regular basis.
Sure, but like all skills different people will have different aptitude and ability to actually learn and adapt it
That doesn't mean I don't try, but I'm just aware that certain things get under my skin and set me from 0 to 100 faster than I can take a deep breath and keep my cool
In public face?
Even if this was a mantra for royalty, I am positive that amongst peers and private lessers they will lose their cool and demeanor.
Presenting a demeanor to a subset of humanity is much easier than the whole; on account of the loneliness acting 100% of the time presents. Code switching is pretty inate to humans, it would seem.
> a life where things actually work out close to how you want them
This is almost nobody, by the way. It's another one of the illusions that has gotten worse with social media.
Yeah, that's why I say it's a privilege. It's not something everyone or even many people get
I think this "temperament" (or whatever you want to call it) _is_ actually a privilege, to be honest. If you have a family and you depend on things to go a certain way to keep your family from being out on the street, you _must_ consider the bads or possible bads of the world. You must allow yourself to be distracted by distractions so you can keep an eye on everything that affects you. To not do so is irresponsible and you put your family and your livelihood at risk.
If I'm sitting pretty on more income than I need with very few obligations, sure, I can just "focus on the path" and "ignore the distractions". But how many people have that luxury?
- Cognitively I know it's better to just focus on the future
I think you should challenge that assumption first. In my opinion, there is a lot of merit to the "Live in the now" philosophy, instead of always ruminating (or contemplating) about the past and the future. Even with goals, I have been often advised to focus more on the tasks / steps to achieve them, rather than the end results.
The problem is they are explicitly saying to do things in the shadows.
Without that daylight you can't differentiate monsters from men. They claim it's because you can't differentiate saints from men, but I'd make the claim that any man who wishes to be seen as a saint is more monster than saint.And we've seen what these people do in the shadows. The disgraced Andrew was far from the only Royal in the Epstein files. We saw what they did to Diana, who tried to shed some light. We've seen it over and over.
I'll take the light, because I'd rather live in a world where we make things better than live in a world with the appearance of magic. The only magic is what we create
The never complain part has a status dimension. Complaints from people seen as privileged land badly. Tech in most world is learning this recently. Engineers fears of AI are legitimate, but for years the industry automated other people work, sold headcount reduction as a feature, and told laid off workers to learn to code. I remember how some european aviation insurance company employees were bragging how many lawyers their company laid off thanks to their automation. Now that it's our turn, people outside the bubble aren't in a mood to sympathize. The automation would have happened anyway and the smugness is what we are paying for.
Recently someone with an awful lot of fast RAM complained that he couldn’t get more of it, even with staggering amounts of money.
Any objective merit his efficiency argument had, the sentiment against him was overwhelming for complaining from such a privileged position.
As Bagehot is quoted saying in the article: "Above all things our royalty is to be reverenced, and if you begin to poke about it you cannot reverence it... Its mystery is its life. We must not let in daylight upon magic".
This makes it evident how this strategy exists to maintain the "magic" and fool the masses. It has no place in a progressive society where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
This is the essence of "royalness". It's all about the magic, going back millennia.
The royal family has obviously fallen apart entirely as its human foibles have become evident, and in modern society it is almost impossible to hide.
Yet, somehow the Trump family is still revered by a large minority as the only thing between them and despair.
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This isn’t coherent. Republicans seem extremely interested in controlling every facet of Americans’ lives. They appear frankly obsessed with controlling who you might love, how you might identify, what books you are allowed to read, whether women have autonomy over their own bodies, etc. The list goes on.
What legislation are you living under that you can't "love who you want to love?" I live in a conservative county and can't hardly drive a mile without seeing a rainbow flag. I don't think any of them are in fear that the police are going to come knocking on their door talking to them about who they should love. Form a coherent point before trying to call out incoherence.
I'll hand it to you, "Trump is awful because he was a Democrat, and Democrats are de facto awful" is one I haven't seen before. That said, within my own anecdotal experience, "God Bless Trump" signs are pretty common in the Bible Belt, and that certainly is a sentiment born of authoritarian times.
>It has no place in a progressive society where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
I think this really misses the nuance of all of this. To put it bluntly: there's too many dumb people who need to believe in this kind of "magic" to be able to reasonably ignore it on a political strategy level. Just trying to treat everyone as intellectually-capable of being presented facts and making a logical choice clearly doesn't work, and the opposition is perfectly willing to exploit this dynamic.
Dumb or too busy surviving to have time to pay proper attention?
( especially when the truth is being intentionally hidden behind a wall of propaganda ).
Also is a strategy of being part of the crowd ( even if it's an astroturfed one ) a dumb or smart survival strategy?
Too many people are tribal rather than critical thinkers.
I feel like bygone royals still left more memorable and positive changes to society (even in the background of all the negatives) that current caste of billionaires ever will.
Future generations will look back and admire today's billionaires for creating things like cellphones, cars and the internet. No matter how true it is.
And now that we've done and gotten rid of monarchies, the masses definitely are not being fooled no more!
> where being duped with propaganda into believing falsehoods should not be something to look up to.
I agree, but believe we’re now in a regressive society, moving as fast as we can to repeat history, investing vast resources into effortless propaganda machines.
That's what I personally call the Huberman strategy: no official statement, barely any acknowledgments of allegations, just carrying on with whatever thing you're doing, the mob will soon enough find its next target. It worked exceptionally well for him, I guess it helps to be a neuroscientist.
Maybe it worked better than trying to address it, but Huberman’s popularity definitely fell off after it was revealed that he was not a great person.
During the peak of his popularity you would find Huberman protocols or Huberman factoids repeated everywhere on the internet, including HN. There was a sharp drop off after the revelations. I can’t recall the last time I saw someone someone repeat a Huberman podcast factoid here, which is remarkable after he was so popular.
In the Huberman case it was compounded by how much he was embracing and repeating non-scientific ideas that sounded good on social media, like reducing everything to being about dopamine or making crazy claims about how you could do things to “raise your dopamine” that were not actually supported by research. When his personal dramas were exposed it became an opening to discuss how bad his podcast had become and I think many listeners woke up to that fact when shaken by the realization that not everything about Huberman was as it seemed.
He has been able to continue podcasting to an audience of die-hard fans, though. These people never totally disappear because a core audience worships them and will ignore everything inconvenient to their worship.
Peter Attia went through a similar downfall after several increasingly bad scandals were revealed, culminating in him getting caught associating deeply with Epstein. He tried to make a public statement about distancing himself from Epstein after discovering Epstein’s crimes, but there are public emails between Attia and Epstein where Attia asks Epstein about how he’s doing after Epstein became national news. That backfired everywhere except the core audience of Attia worshippers who now just get angry whenever anyone brings up the Attia-Epstein connection. It’s wild that Attia was one of the few Epstein associates who continued contacting Epstein so much (which went into court records and became public) after he became publicly known as a trafficker. And yet there are hardcore Attia fans to this day.
>Huberman’s popularity definitely fell off after it was revealed that he was not a great person.
I’m not aware of such revelations, maybe I haven’t kept up on all, I recall a piece where women he was dating would get together and talk about dating him while continuing to choose to date him. But I don’t remember any story that revealed something negative about him.
Interesting that you remember the story existing but got the details incorrect and forgot the real problems in the article.
The bigger revelations in the story were that the “Huberman Lab” existed largely in name only and he wasn't living or working near the University. His career had pivoted to influencer celebrity long ago but he’s been capitalizing on the neuroscientist title and claiming lab associations anyway. They also interviewed associates who revealed his history of leading people on, manipulating them, and being dishonest wherever it might help his career. Then they found that he was cheating on multiple women at the same time, including someone he led to believe he wanted a long term relationship and children with. He was injecting one partner with fertility drugs while cheating.
What’s fascinating is how his fanbase stripped the story of all of the important details (chronic pattern of misleading everyone in his life where it can help his popularity, which extends into his podcast reporting where he misleads listeners) and instead tried to transform it into personal dating drama that was overblown.
Then the second pass of rationalizing it away was to take the relationship drama and transform that into something that could be blamed on the women involved while letting Huberman off the hook. After that final transformation they were free to ignore anything negative about him because the story had been rewritten, in the retelling, to be completely the fault of women. There were even efforts to make it look like a good thing that he was dating multiple women.
In case it wasn’t clear: In the reporting the women did not “continue to choose to date him” as you heard. The reported group discussion was about former partners had been lied to who were discovering each other because the number of them had grown so high that he couldn’t escape it.
That's the one strategy suggested to people when the cancel mob comes for you. If you give them any attention at all they turn their efforts up to 11. If you just ignore them completely they find a new target. (That is of course if they don't go one level above you and have you cancelled that way.)
As we can see with Epstein files handling. And Trump rape allegations. And supreme court justice rape allegations.
And generally other wrongdoing by powerful.
Man this is antithetical to how I live my life. I complain all the time and over-explain everything.
Do you think it has affected your life negatively, the complaining?
Probably. I have been trying to be at least a bit more discriminating about what I complain about now. Even if the quantity of complaints is roughly the same, I at least try and direct it more towards things that deserve the complaints more.
I do think there's value in saying things that are bothering you early on, so I'm not going to say that complaining is inherently "bad", but I will acknowledge that frequent complaining (especially to the wrong people) can lead to a lot of unhappiness and dissatisfaction with your life.
I don't think over-explaining everything has negatively affected my life though.
Let me guess, you are a german ?
I guess that's my ethnic group, but I don't really consider myself "German", given that I've only ever lived in the United States. I just consider myself "American".
This article lacks a concise definition of what this means, other than "not commenting" and "just getting on with it", I would suppose.
I suppose think about it like you’re the captain of a ship. Imagine a captain always complaining about their peers, the ship, their outfit etc. And when giving orders they sound out their whole thinking process about why they are doing x or y. Versus never complaining or explaining in public. Certainly the former would be a less inspiring and weaker leader.
Exactly. Full steam ahead while weaker sailors discuss and fret about icebergs.
"Why did your ship, the Titanic, sink Captain?"
"No comment"
"The investigation is ongoing and we will provide further details as they become available"
I would guess it's more like a stronger captain diverts immediately rather than wasting time discussing the iceberg first.
Maybe a more contemporary aphorism is "don't let them see you sweat." Not identical, but seems similar enough.
This article just follows its own stated principle
And yet, I feel so validated as a commoner who has (mostly in US politics) felt as though all rational rules of conversation, question and answer, and accountability are suspended.
Naive me joined other commoners to express aghast surprise at how stupid and clueless our leaders were (are!), completely clueless to the idea that perhaps we were (are!) being managed and that our rage burns off energy in a mostly harmless manner.
This is actually some really good advice on public relations to avoid drama
Apparently, the British royal family came to the realization a couple of decades ago that it was not an adequate way of avoiding drama anymore.
> With a less deferential and increasingly aggressive media landscape, the strategy of "Never complain, never explain" was abandoned by Prince Charles (the future King Charles III) and his wife Diana, Princess of Wales, in the 1990s.
I am not sure whether the motto is the cause there or the fact that Charles had a lot of drama going on...
Most people or organisations can just wait until the public get bored of that issue and forget about them, but for the Royals that doesn't work because they are _always_ in the public eye. There's enough demand for Royal news that if nothing else is happening, the press will quite happily rake over old sores. The only way out is to feed the press with constant new material.
It later says that Prince Harry and others were taught that motto in childhood - so that was a temporary slip.
My two favorite things!?
Whatever happened to Gary Cooper? The strong, silent type...
It's annoying to the outside observer, but in-general providing specific details risks opening yourself up to more criticism. It's a cynical stance, but understandable.
Only org's truly confident in their handling of an incident can afford to be open.
Obviously key stakeholders get the full details, but Joe Public doesn't get to know.
Secrets shrouded in darkness, it’s certainly convenient when you’re part of a royal family. But major leaks ought to be made public—or, at the very least, the steps taken to address them should be disclosed. It is important to understand the scale of a leak and the specific individuals involved.
It depends what you are trying to do.
This maxim doesn't work for government, because they have to justify what they do because they are the ones trying to steer a country though very slack and unconnected reins.
The odd bit about the royals is that they are meant to be largely apolitical. They are supposed to be focused on charitable works, opening infrastructure and generally promoting togetherness.
This kinda worked because it meant that we don't have to pretend to like politicians. Great Britain (yes, not UK because its complex) gets to detach the pomp and circumstance from a political movement, allowing honours, events and occasions to largely be free of politics (despite honours being entirely political) This is why flag shaggers are so weird, its fine to like your country, but getting dressed up in a flag for anything other than sports or getting shitfaced is not the done thing. If you're gonna have a fight, at least do it over something tangible, like which ever football club your dad grew up near.
The bit that worked about the royals is that they were a mystery. We don't know who they really are (you rarely want to know everything about a person, because people are generally messy and ugly close up)
Frankly I don't want to know that harry and william fell out. I have no opinions on kate and megan. I am sure they are nice people, and moreover I couldnt give a fuck about what race one of them is, I'm not american, so why do I fucking care?
I just want posh grandad to say nice words to me at state occasions.
I also want that nonce andrew in jail.
ANYWAY
don't complain don't explain only works if you are only ever trying to bring people together. as soon as you trying to divide and conquer you have to explain.